You might want to check out this link after you skim below.
I did not explore the rest of this site, but very much appreciated this post, the comments and dialogue. The video of course and the transcript that one commenter included is… well… a picture paints a thousand words…
Here is the transcript of this section of Mark’s sermon “against” abuse and abusers… I wonder if MD looks in the mirror and applies his own words to himself? Sadly, from my perspective, he is yelling about / against some of the behaviors and characteristics I see in him… He also attempts to shame others into obedience (research and experience prove this rarely, if ever, works over the long haul), and he swings his arm around as if he is backhanding someone in the face, then points his finger angrily at the congregation, while yelling at them. I got a sad image of what it may have been like in little Driscoll’s home where his alcoholic father may very well have behaved similarly.
In the transcript below, the parts in bold I wonder if they might apply to MD, and that he needs to say these to himself… Some of these I pray MD would hear and apply, some I pray he would repent of in his own heart and life… The parts in italics, are me going “huh??”
It is always a shock to me when someone who behaves in manipulative, controlling and abusive ways condemns the very same behavior in others all the while being completely oblivious that they are describing themselves!
Some of you guys are just–it’s so frustrating. Some of you guys have been coming here for years–you still got your hands all over your girlfriend.
Some of you guys been coming’ here for years–you’re still not praying with your wife. Some of you guys been coming’ here for years–you’re still single and having sex.
Some of you guys will even–even as I’m preaching the sermon–some of you will be sitting next to your girlfriend or your fiancé or your wife. Some of you guys have already given her that look. “Don’t cry, don’t let ‘em know they’re talking about me–just hold it together.” You’ve already intimidated her right here.
Some of you guys have already whispered in her ear. “I don’t want to hear it–we’re not talking about this in the car on the way home.” Some of you have already whispered in her ear, “I’m sorry, I’ll do better. Trust me–let’s just move on real quickly.”
How dare you?
Who the hell do you think you are? Abusing a women–neglecting a women
being a coward–a fool. Being like your father Adam. Who do you think you are?
You’re not god, you’re just a man.
You’re not an impressive man.
You’re not a responsible man.
You’re not a noble man.
You’re not a respectable man.
You’re not a responsible man in any regard.
I don’t care how successful you are. In this area, if you are a failure, It clouds all of your dignity. It robs all of your masculinity. There is no excuse for any man who claims the name of Christ to treat a woman in a dishonorable disrespectful way.
Some of you right now–you guys will get all angry. How dare he yell at me?
That’s the Holy Spirit telling you it’s you. I didn’t name you–he did.
You change now, little boy–You change right now. You shut up. You put your pants on. You get a job. You grow up, and maybe one day you can love a woman. It’s for men not for boys.
And those of you men who are here, and you’re wives are suffering under your folly and failure–shame on you.
Shame on you if you say you’re a Christian
And shame on you if you’ve not been attending Mars Hill
And shame on you if you’ve been surrounded by good men and have pursued none of them.
And shame on you if you’ve not become a member and submitted to spiritual authority.
And shame on you if you’ve not joined a community group so you can walk in darkness.
And shame on you if you’ve shown up to put communion in your hands representing the body and blood of your murdered savior and then go put them on your girlfriend or download porn from the internet or raise your hand in a threat to your wife.
Shame on you!
You guys are a joke. And there are a handful of good men who are tired of picking up your mess. So you step up, you shut up, you man up, and you use all that anger you have toward me right now to repent–you do business with God.
I’m going to let you sit in this for a while.
You don’t go get your kids–you don’t get up and leave. We’re going to do something we’ve never done–we’re going to pass the plate–you can give your tithes and offerings. Early on in the church, 1995 or 6, we didn’t. I didn’t want anyone to think badly of me. I haven’t led well in this area. We have people who come to this church every week they don’t worship. They take, they don’t participate. If you’re disconnected please fill out the visitor card. Thousands of people fall through the cracks. Don’t lose this opportunity to get connected, so we can help.
When you’re ready, you take communion–but you men–you hear me this. You apologize to your wife before you take communion. Corinthians says if you don’t, you’ll drink judgment on yourself. God might even kill you right here to make an example of you. If you’re here with your girlfriend, you apologize. If you’re a little boy, you break up with her in love. And you tell her that you’re not ready, and that she deserves better–because God’s daughters need to be loved like Christ loved the church.
When you’re ready–when you’ve sat in it for a while, you take communion, you give of your tithes and offerings, and then you sing in repentance to Jesus. I do love you. I am furious with some men, and I believe that fury is God’s. You are not cute, and he is not pleased, and time is short.